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You are The LOVE God placed in the world for your family to see!
Fathers are the gate keepers of the family. What us men bring in through our choices affects the family either positively or negatively.. We are 4 STAR Generals and the enemy of your family's soul knows if he can take you out, the whole family falls creating a negative spiraling legacy, BUT good news for all of us men. The Lord God is our redeemer and can take what we have broken and mend it for good and make what was broken stronger. Today is the Day of HIS salvation, Ask for it (pray), call for air Support (declare), and see what happens. It's never too late.
FIRST THINGS FIRST: Fathers, Husbands, Parents, ( there are no "superhero" men, Just broken men, rebuilding daily and sometimes rebuilding with defective tools, BUT keep rebuilding, don't stop! Grow, Learn, Forgive, Love, and help others heal. I have MANY regrets and MANY do overs I'd pay everything to go back in time and tell myself "stop, its not worth it", or "you're too valuable to waste this part of you in this moment of weakness" Read my advice with a grain of mercy, compassion, and don't be too hard on yourself.
R.H -
Board Certified-Mental Health Coach, Life Coach, Life Recovery Coach, Chaplain
1. Humble yourself.. aka actively admit and say to the Lord you have NOTHING to offer without HIM, He GIVES grace to the Humble, and humility opens the door for His grace to get in front of you and move on your behalf. choose Pride and the "I can do it myself" attitude, and do exactly that. God's spirit has nothing to do with pride.
2. Choose who you are gonna believe. Believe that God is for you not against you, He's a good Father and loves your family more than you do. He is waiting for you to step into faith ( humility ) and believe. so HE can move on your behalf. He loves showing off His love.
3. There's power in YOUR words. The MOST powerful weapon you have is to know that what you speak activates faith and moves mountains. So declare what you want not what you are seeing in the physical realm. Speak the truth of what God says not your own ideas.
4. Pray from authority, there's no need to "ask" Because God said a big "YES" when he sent Jesus to die for you, your family, and to break all curses. He gave you the same power to break off lack in your life when he gave you the Holy spirit. So declare it because you have been anointed to do so in your family.
5. Lone Rangers don't exist. Get plugged into a men's group. Strong men sharpen each other. Look at the 5 men you hang with the most and ask yourself which one of them do I want to be like? Well find men you want to be like and get plugged into a Church group etc and this act of Humility will reap dividends for life in the form of healing, growth, wisdom.
6. A Good man isn't the man who doesn't make mistakes but rather the man who humbles himself by admitting his wrongs and is quick to get back up and learn from them.
7. Activate your manhood, Don't be afraid to be yourself, Be goofy, silly, vulnerable, and respectful. your family wants to know you're real, open and a safe place, They need a soft rock to lean on emotionally.
8. Step out and be what the world is seeking in a MAN. They are seeking an authentic, fathers love, Not perfect but "potential ", in persistent growth and consistent integrity that can be the confidence, peace, and stability needed in a home for thriving Families, producing kids that have confidence, security, and the freedom to just "BE".
9. Forgiveness, After all is said and done, and you've opened up the door of blessing by choosing, making yourself, and purposing to be Humble,., A next step is to Forgive and let go. There's nothing more powerful than the act of forgiving, Jesus demonstrated this from a perspective that can't be fathomed by us until we get that revelation. Forgiveness is for your health, wholeness, and well being but by default it releases a healing into your own spirit. Forgive not because they deserve it, But rather when you realize God loves you in your Junk, He also loves them. Do you treat an 8 year old and hold them accountable as much as a 16 yr old? The answer is no, because the 8 yr old doesn't have the maturity and you Love them where they are. God loves you where you are and in your spiritual immaturity. Whoever offended you did it in an immature spiritual POV. Love them and Let them go for your sake. God wants to Forgive you. There's no counseling or addiction that can break you free from the consequences of unforgiveness. God won't break his own rules to save you. He Gave you over to the tormentors because that's the choice you made. Forgive otherwise you are tethered to the pain and he can't free you from it because you chose it. Forgiving is Hard but its a choice.
10. Heaven, Earth, And Hell all are on your side. Ps 19. Heavens declare the glory of God and the earth. Luke 16 The man in hell asks for someone to go tell his brothers so they don't have to go to Hell. So simply put, all the angels, the earth and people in Hell want you to step out in faith and believe so that the world can see Jesus in You and see him. on earth. So if God is for you who can be against you. Step up, step out and move in faith.
What's this site for?
I hope this website encourages you to be a better Husband, Father and ultimately a friend of Jesus.
I will be posting love letters to my daughter as well as words of wisdom for fathers in need of encouragement.